Settling

Settling: Please do not settle for just any ol' body. Start searching for your future. Don't just grab the next person that walks by, really take the time to get to know this person to see if they are really what you want. FYI, Marriage, its for life just in case you didn't know! ♥

XoXo,

Cam

STAIRWAY TO LOVE

 You know the saying, "You're a hopeless romantic" well I'm a HOPEFUL romantic! To find the right love is a process that does not happen overnight.  There are steps you have to take to get to where you want to be, and unfortunately you have to create your own stairway to love.  Think of what you want out of a relationship, what is most important to you, what can't you live without.  I suggest making a list.  It doesn't have to be thirty pages long, it only has to consist of your "must haves".  Making this list will allow you to evaluate the person your considering spending the rest of your life with.  For example, if one of your "must haves" is, Respect.  Define what respect means to you and if that person is not meeting your definition of respect then maybe its time to reevaluate the whole relationship.  

Lastly, with your list make sure you're able to meet all the standards you have formed for your significant other.  Why should that person meet your standards if you can't meet them yourself!


XoXo,
Cam

Open Heart

I had the LONGEST list when it came to what I wanted in the opposite sex.  OMG it was literally pages!  However, after talking to some of my closes friends (more like them talking at me…lol!) I have decided to shorten my “list” drastically!  I have always said,  “if I can’t meet my own standards then I refuse to put those standards on my future partner” and I still stand by that statement.  But, some things on my list were kinda impossible to meet, for example, genetically straight teeth, 6ft or taller, must have upper level college education, and reasonable size nostrils…lol! Now that I have looked over my list I realize that some standards were just straight up ridiculous!  It took some maturity on my part and a lot of conversations with some of my sisters that lasted for hours and a lot of eye rolling on my part.  Prayer and truly looking at myself to see if I could meet all these standards is what really help turn my thinking around on some things.  I know I’m nowhere near 6ft, I don’t have all my graduate degrees (I’m getting there) and I’m no Halle Berry, but I handle my own.  However, I will say this, my uncle has always said, “You don’t want someone who looks like they belong on a chain or in a cage”…lol! It’s all about having an open heart for love to find you.  So, I’m letting go and seeing what happens…. you never know :)

XoXo,

Cam

Approachable or Not?

So lately I've been told by some guys that I'm unapproachable! Its amazing how the opposite sex perceives you, but unfortunately my girlfriends have told me this as well! I just don't get it, I didn't think I had seemed "stand-offish" or aloof! I am a focused individual and sometimes I guess that can come off as though I have a wall up and no one is allowed in, and guys do not find that attractive! I can understand why guys would not find that attractive, because I don't either.  So I guess I should fix my face and my attitude. But, how? Because how do you fix a problem you were not aware of in the first place? I honestly have no clue how I can fix this problem.  I don't want guys to be turn-off and unable to approach me because they think I'm mean or something of the sort.  I know my friends were just trying to bring this to my attention, but dang, now I'm a little insecure (so does that make me worse off?)! However, when guys actually get up the nerve to talk to me they are surprised that I'm not what they expected (thankfully). So, it would be the other way around, rather than trying to get a guy's attention and keep it; I can keep a guy's attention, but I just don't know how to get it...lol!  I don't know how to soften my face, and I refuse to stroll around with a smile plastered on (maybe that's my problem, I'm noncompliant).  I don't think a guy would want a woman who walks around cheesing all day long, or am I wrong? How do I make this work, I'm focus woman and unfortunately I always have something on my mind controlling my outward appearance.  What's a girl to do? I am genuinely perplexed? Help!?!? 


XoXo,
Cam