You know the saying, "You're a hopeless romantic" well I'm a HOPEFUL romantic! To find the right love is a process that does not happen overnight. There are steps you have to take to get to where you want to be, and unfortunately you have to create your own stairway to love. Think of what you want out of a relationship, what is most important to you, what can't you live without. I suggest making a list. It doesn't have to be thirty pages long, it only has to consist of your "must haves". Making this list will allow you to evaluate the person your considering spending the rest of your life with. For example, if one of your "must haves" is, Respect. Define what respect means to you and if that person is not meeting your definition of respect then maybe its time to reevaluate the whole relationship.